"I read a book called, "The Millionaire Next Door" and it explained why my pain points were motivating for me, and how I channeled that frustration into something productive...the desire to make my family proud and 'come up' in life and pull my family into a better socioeconomic situation, and to 'have what others have but i never could' but somewhere along the way, I learned quickly that the 'having of stuff' is not what brings happiness so I dont pursue the shiniest of immaterial things... just the MED.... minimum effective dose of what I truly want which is surround myself with a few quality people and necessary things to subsist on than a bunch of trendy new things and fads that will fall off eventually."